每一天,我都会偷偷的,想想自己对爱情的理念。。
也会不时回忆起曾经让人泪流满面的画面和情节。。
那时,是不是错在于自己太多要求、太过不相信。。
还是,对方的执著与失望同样的让伤害加深?
[From time to time, I'll steal a moment to think through my philosophy for love. And I'll recall those moments we quarrelled and had a bad tearful fight.. Wondering, was I demanding too much or have I been too untrusting towards you? Perhaps, the fact that you can never accept my stand too and the disappointment from the lacking trust, worsen the situation.]
爱情嘛,只不过两个字。。却让人始终摸不着头绪。
我可以理解,可以接受,可以为爱放弃追问对与错。
可是你呢?
有时让得太多,不是一种接受,而是一种对自己的折磨。
这种痛,你是否也能感觉得到?
[Love is but a simple word, yet no one could ever come up with one sound theory to support and guide people along. Whenever I reflect on what went wrong between us, I can understand, accept and stop questioning whose right or wrong..Cos I can, for love, sacrifice my rights. But what about you? Sometimes, we tend to be tolerant not accepting.. and this in turn brings torture to no one else but oneself.. Do you, even feel the way I feel? Do you, know what's the difference between acceptance and tolerance?]
人往往无法体会对方的想法,一心只要他/她明白自己的立场
回想我们曾一起走过的苦涩,原来我是明白的。。明白你为什么会这么说,这么做。。但在生气的那一刻,似乎把一切都抛之脑后,什么都无法好好思考。
后之后觉,原来我们都放不下的。。是尊严,自尊与面子。。
[The weakness of mankind, is that we can never truly accept diversity. We choose to force down whatever opinions we strongly believe in and which we never leave spaces for other differing ideas. As I ponder, I realised I knew it all along.. I knew what caused you to act the way you do, say those words you said.. They might be harsh, and in anger, I let my emotions carry me away.. I let antagony control my mind. Then, I was enlightened. Pride and dignity, that is. We cared too much.. too much..]
若放下会阻碍你的视线的一切,冷静地回想,思考。。
也许,你将会发现爱情需要做的努力很清楚。。也很简单
只是这种简单往往需要我们付出更多,花更多心血,精神,和时间
毕竟,这所谓的简单并不在我们一直以来处在的安乐范围里,这并不是我们一直习惯着的
就算再辛苦,我坚信所有的付出都是值得的。只要相信。。
[So now, if you would let your guards down, clear your vision, bring yourself down to the lowest level you could to think and reflect deeply.. Maybe, you would realise the simplicity of love. Yet this simplicity is way beyond our imagination, our habits, and that results in more determination and dedication for time, effort and contributions to make things work. No matter how hard and tough that will be, as long as you believe, everything will be worth.. Just remember..]
“爱不问后不后悔,只问是否真心对待过”
"Love doesn't question the regrets that will come, but whether you had put in wholeheartedly and sincerely"