First, I have to clarify a point that some peeps out there might have forgotten.
Or at least for the benefits of those who did not receive the same education.
A persuasive writing should be long.
Long enough to convince.
Of course, in my case, it is going to be long
but I'm not going to convince you.
It's really.. up to you (:
Scenario:
She was fuming mad when he couldn't even decide on the slightest thing - what to order in the menu.
Later in the week, she explained her actions claiming that it was for his good.
She wanted him to be like a man and be more decisive.
It will take her anything, even to be the bad person, to turn him into the man she desires.
However, as days passed..
Issues began to arise again and again.
This time round, because of a cup of milk.
In his grumbles, he mentioned, "She said wife is the biggest. What do you think?"
...
In this short scenario, it is somewhat clear what was happening.
I can't say who is to be blamed. Cos both have their reasons.
However, the point I'm going to make here is the fact that her "actions and objective" don't meet.
Let me elaborate.
When she claimed that it was all for his good to be a man.
She indirectly overturned her philosophy when she said "Wife is the biggest"
In this short phrase, it shows the dominating party.
Both of them have their temper, but eventually, the guy would give in.
Succumb to all the rantings by her.
Someone asked me that is it because he feels that as long as he has a girlfriend/wife, he is already blessed?
Simply put, he feels that to get a lifetime partner is like picking stars from the sky, that is why he'll make do with anyone who comes along and showed him that she cares, somehow.
And when he is committed, he gave it all.
Why do I say she overturned her philosophy?
Have you ever come across the word "henpecked man"?
This type of guys will never go against their wife or dare to contradict their wife.
This might be a cause of
"I just want to please her, and make her happy. Why quarrel when I could just obey and ease things?"
Can you sense the contradiction now?
If not, let me continue..
To smear a man's face like it is worth not even a single is like pushing your limits and disgracing a woman's traits.
Allow me to say, this is a referral from a chinese book.
It was the 100th book written by the female author that I read which bears the title
which suggested that females with a sweet and honeyed mouth will lead a blissful life.
(pardon I do not remember the actual title, but the meaning is there)
In this book, it suggested ways to treat a guy - be it husband/boyfriend.
It depicted some scenes in which the girl 'acts' like she is the less authorized person in the relationship.
But actually, with such strategic moves, she is, in fact, in the upperhand.
Why not try being sweeter? It doesn't harm to be like this.
It is a capability every woman possesses, but just a matter whether you've decided to throw it away.
If not, it's not too late to get it back.
Make it a habit, sooner or later, you'll discover the wonders!
Ok back to the point.
A guy who has that intention in mind (cause)
will never go against the wife which gradually turns him into a henpecked husband.
Is this what she desires?
I don't think this is the so-called outcome she wanted.
This does not serve as a 101% workabe solution for every couples, but I think it applies to all ages.
Encouragement.
Like a child, we need to constantly acknowledge and praise them meaningfully.
Provide positive feedbacks and continue to cheer them on when they fail to succeed.
Likewise, adults need these encouragement and acknowledgement.
We need to be appreciated, what's more, we need to KNOW that we're being valued.
And all these can be simply achieved as long as we allow it.
"Everything will turn right.. when we let it"
In the moment you decided to make that change, you'll see the differences later some time.
Maybe not immediate, but definitely will.
Ok, my fingers are not acting as my brain wish it to be.
I shall just end here abruptly.
Good day!
And Merry X'mas Ever!
Enjoy this joyous festive (:
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